Can you see yourself in a luminous spotlight...an emanation that moves when you move...goes where you go...beautifully illuminating your corner of the world?
This SPOTLIGHT is a physical expression of your BOUNDARY...the place which you occupy and where no one else belongs.
From this vantage point you can view all the many other spotlights around you, each shining on other persons. You can be an OBSERVER as each individual lives his life...writes his own story. And, most importantly, you can clearly see the difference between their spotlights and yours.
And here is the most important part...
When someone standing near you makes a move (no matter what the emotional content...no matter whether it is an affirming gesture or an annoying one)...it is clearly a part of their spotlight, NOT YOURS. It may feel like it is coming at you, but it is NOT YOUR STUFF.
It is an indication of where that person is and that's all it is.
It may feel like an arrow shot into your heart but that will only be because you have crossed from your boundary over into theirs and have tapped into something you do not own.
Somehow...for some reason...you have decided that you are NOT the determiner of your life and that you NEED CO-PILOTS to tell you how to feel.
You are letting these copilots decide whether you will be happy or sad. You are, in fact, borrowing their stuff and making it yours.
Now your happiness is out of your control. it depends on what someone else thinks or says...does or doesn't do.
And it doesn't need to be this way.
We are truly the most wonderful pilots all on our own.
We do not need to have someone give us our happiness. We do not have to wait for someone to deal us that card.
And, conversely, we do not have to attach ourselves to their problems.
When someone is out of sorts and speaks to us in a disturbing manner we only need realize that it is something they are going through and a part of their story.
It's NOT our stuff.
It's NOT a part of our spotlight.
Somehow we have blurred the boundaries and can no longer see what is ours and what is theirs.
Other persons' spotlights do not belong to us...
The decision to be happy or sad is ours and ours alone and once we see how the spotlights are designed and delineated we realize that WE are the determiners of the content, the dreams and the joys of our own life.
Writer, director, producer and actor...we inhabit all of these roles. If we let someone else take over, we have misplaced our power and we suffer for it.
What's the name on your marquee?
image from llmcountryclub.com
originally published September 30, 2011