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Wednesday, August 27, 2025
Unspeakable Kindness
Geneen Roth tells us that whenever we feel an upsetting explosion of emotion that arrives unexpectedly and without invitation, it is a holy moment. Sacred information is being revealed to us and it is our being triggered that opens this fascinating door to our awareness.
Friday, August 22, 2025
Embracing the Shenpa
All of us, in our essence, are Love.
Ken Porter
In many (and I would venture to say most) cases that default is not so pretty.
One big example of the default is an ADDICTION.
We feel stung by a remark or an event. It hits a point of insecurity...or an emotional wound that we have not dealt with... and we immediately turn to our "comfort" of choice (and it's not something on the health and wellness list).
Or, we might become immediately defensive or respond to our perceived hurt by "counterattacking".
And, when all is said and done and the dust has settled, we don't feel so great about our choice or outburst. But we were feeling so very helpless; everything seemed so out of our control... like the issue (read TRIGGER) took over our consciousness.
And that space...the very quick space of time after the trigger was activated... is
And it's VERY powerful.
It's the backing away that is the problem.
When we open ourselves to the shenpa...
And that is when release occurs...when we EMBRACE this uncomfortable feeling which, if unexamined, leads to unhealthy choices and behavior.
Chodron (and Porter) believe
What we resist, persists.
What we embrace and experience reveals itself to us.
This act of courage..of bravely facing ourselves... seems resonant with what we have come here to do and I believe it helps us access the resources we need for the work of our journey.
Now the shenpa doesn't feel so scary.
And, in that moment, WE MEET THE SHENPA with the strength and power of our shared divinity. And Love once again becomes the instrument which comforts, soothes and sustains us.
Marie Helena
image from elephantjournal.com.
Wednesday, August 20, 2025
One Giraffe, One Lion, Two Parrots, Four Monkeys, One Tortoise and a Zebra
My daughter Valerie is an awesome fourth grade teacher. Her work days are spent in a classroom teeming with excitement, delight and fourth grade emotions. Her students are often bursting with energy which needs to be acknowledged, managed and navigated into a creative learning experience.
And Valerie is always ALL IN for whatever presents itself in the moment. Her spontaneous responses never fail to seize the unexpected opportunities knocking at her door.
And speaking of that “knocking”, I have a confession to make. While watching her from the “sidelines”, I have always loved the idea of being a part of the fun and I sometimes get these bursts of inspiration on how to make that happen.
Take this year, for example. At the beginning of this current school year, I arranged to have a super plush, 4 foot stuffed giraffe delivered to her classroom crammed into an Amazon delivery box. No one knew the delivery was coming… not even Valerie.
At this unexpected event, the students watched while she loosened the top flap of the box and the giraffe’s head popped out, followed by an unfolding of the rest of his body and limbs.
Oooos and ahhhhs pirouetted in the air and Valerie read out loud the message the giraffe was delivering for me: “So much to discover!”
It was a delightful moment for the kids. Everybody is always curious when a new student joins the class.
It wasn’t very long before Valerie had positioned Spot (named by a vote of the class) standing up at the blackboard. Next to him were chalk notes from Spot written to the students. Overnight, Spot had become a teaching assistant, communicating to the students important thoughts for them to remember.
As I learned about Spot’s new assignment, I knew the giraffe would provide lots of fun for the students, but I didn’t know how soon I would be eager to introduce a new companion for him.
A few weeks later another delivery arrived to the classroom containing a large box with another jungle animal. This time it was a plush stuffed lion. I hasten to explain here that it was a lion with a gentle face. (All the jungle animals that found their way into Valerie‘s fourth grade classroom had gentle demeanors. This was a very important rule of mine. I wanted the students to enjoy the animals’ personalities.)
This particular lion was designed in a reclining manner which made it easy for students to approach it before class each day. And it wasn’t long before Valerie found students petting the lion and his brother giraffe. She quickly saw that their presence was filling a need the students had to use the sense of touch to express their affection.
As time went on, I asked myself what could be added to this awesome duo and the answer presented itself to me In an imaginary jungle scene… Two colorful parrots! Talking parrots. And the two plush parrots who joined the scenario next were able to record what they heard and repeat it back to the students in their own unique parrot voices.
As animals arrived to the classroom they typically received a name that had been voted on by the class. If any student was absent on this important day, the class waited for a full return before the vote was taken. Every vote was important.
By now the school year had reached Halloween and the students eagerly dressed the animals for the occasion.
I was delighted to see the jungle scene was creating itself and I felt a call for some rascal energy and, soon after, four monkeys arrived each with a mischevious grin decorating his face. Each monkey had Velcro attached to his hands and feet and so there were many interesting ways the monkeys could be displayed in the classroom.
Over time, I began to wonder what else might belong in the jungle scenario. I wanted to surprise everyone and think of a creature no one would have anticipated. I decided on a tortoise and no one had more fun with the new visitor than the classroom maintenance person who commented it would be fun to suspend it from the ceiling so it would look like it was swimming.
As the school year passed quickly by, I realized we were only a few weeks away from its ending. Something in me was calling for a dramatic, final surprise. I was ecstatic to find Stripes, an adorable, genteel, plush 30 inch zebra who was introduced to the class by Spot, his fellow sojourner.
Reflecting on the delightful events of the school year, I begin to wonder who had had more fun this year…the students or me. Or maybe it was the maintenance man who wanted to suspend the tortoise from the ceiling as if he were swimming by. Perhaps it was my daughter who got to use her ingenuity incorporating the new additions to her exciting classroom.
As I told a friend about this adventure of mine, she commented that the students would never forget their fourth grade experience. I loved that thought. I felt they would fondly remember their generous, fun-loving teacher and the jungle animals who had helped her capture so many important lessons in the classroom.
A couple of days ago I listened to a podcast discussing a book called Homecoming. The book is about coming home to ourselves. I thought about coming home to myself and I realized how much I love to use my imagination to create fun, loving, surprising things. I thought about the wonderful imagination of my daughter and her students as they enjoyed their jungle friends and I sat down to write this blog because sharing these memories made me come home to myself and what I treasure so much in my life.
How delightful it is to think about coming home to ourselves every day. The fun… the adventure… the joy. Coming home to whatever makes our hearts sing. When we are immersed in these beautiful moments, I think we access the very best parts of ourselves.
What are your greatest sources of joy and adventure? Have you accessed them today?
Spot, Stripes and the rest of the fourth grade jungle crew are wishing you an AWESOME day coming home to yourself.
Marie Helena
Saturday, August 9, 2025
A Tender Place
I believe there is a very tenderplace in every human heart. A place where unconditional loveand compassion reside. This is a gift we come into the world with but, sadly, gets clouded over from the limiting experiences we undergo. As a result of this, it is sometimes difficult to access this beautiful oasisbecause we have all been scarred by emotional debris and are in varying stages of doing the work of clearing it out.
I believe there is a way to access this place...a way to help ourselves and to help others connect with this beautiful resource and that is by letting them know the emotions we are experiencing in our body.
So often, when we are triggered or affected by an assumption or a comment made by others, we react with stony silence or a counterattack, drawing the conclusion that we have not been supported or understood. We feel alone… and sad… and uncared for. But the reason we feel this way may be that we have not clearly communicated in a very primal and pure way what we are physically experiencing in that moment.
When we choose to engage with another in a moment of upset or distress exclusively in the mode of this-is-what-you-did-to-me, we miss the opportunity to avail ourselves of a resource of great power that has the potential to bridge the chasm that we are feeling between ourselves and another...and, that is, the sharing of the raw emotions we are experiencing.
What if when we feel upset or attacked instead of moving immediately into an expression of blame or hurt feelings, we were to take a breath and softly and gently describe the feelings that are taking hold of our body?
For example, we might make a comment such as "In this moment I feel my heart racing and my chest feels tight and I don't know why."
For some beautiful, and, I believe, spiritual reason, the nonjudgmental description of the emotions we are experiencing in that moment has an intense, transformative effect on both individuals involved in the conversation. The person describing the feelings being experienced accesses what lies beneath his surface default reaction of protecting and defending themselves. The person who hears the feelings described experiences the sharing of sacred information. And both are transformed in that moment because they have together entered into a journey of exploring the pain that is occurring without the heavy armor of accusation, guilt and recrimination.
In order for an experience such as this to take place, both individuals need to be prepared for it and agree to this very different response to conflict. Perhaps an understanding can be reached during a peaceful moment to speak to each other in this manner when feeling deep distress.
There is something so intuitive, so powerful that occurs when we truly feel the stirrings...and sadness...of the human heart. That beautiful, tender place in each of us rises up effortlessly in this epic moment for the purpose of understanding and soothing the emotions being revealed with such deep authenticity.
Whether we are the person expressing the emotions revealing themselves in our body or the person hearing them expressed by another… in this interaction, we enter into a sacred covenant of understanding and compassion, helping to heal ourselves and helping to heal another.
As simple as a soft, gentle step away from the usual fray we engage in and into a space of Divine interaction, offering and receiving the tender grace of a kind and loving heart.
Marie Helena
image from pinterest.com
Tuesday, July 29, 2025
When We Are Ready
The creator gathered all of creation and said,
“I want to hide something from the humans until they are ready for it.
It is the realization that they create their own reality.”
The Eagle said, "Give it to me, i will take it to the moon."
The creator said, "No, one day they will go there and find it."
The salmon said, "I will bury it at the bottom of the ocean."
The creator said, "No, they will go there, too."
The buffalo said, "I will bury it on the great plains."
The creator said, "No, they will cut the skin of the Earth and find it even there.”
Grandmother mole, who lives in the breast of Mother earth and who has no physical eyes but sees with spiritual eyes, said, “Put it inside of them.”
And the creator said, “It is done!”
These few, brief words give us a significant lesson about life:
The purpose of our earth journey is to discover that we are magnificent beings with the ability to CREATE our own adventures and experiences.
We CHOOSE what we want to believe and those beliefs affect our feelings and emotions. Those same feelings and emotions are then reflected back to us in the people and circumstances which populate our lives.
The realization of this comes when we are ready...when we have asked ourselves important questions...when we are able to view our lives as observers full of curiosity and wonder...when we look into our own hearts for answers.
At the end of this pilgrimage lies this DISCOVERY.
And this discovery empowers us to experience life not as victims...but as creators.
We share this Divine gift which waits for our perception. It is a beautiful flower, waiting to open and bring us joy.
Cultivate your "garden"...
water your curiosity...
listen to your heart...
feel the rhythm of the universe...
and you will find yourself right in the midst of this breathtaking bequest.
Wednesday, July 16, 2025
FIDDLERS on the Roof
In the vibrant, captivating musical, Fiddler on the Roof, Tevye and his Jewish brethren give voice so brilliantly to the longings of their heart.
There is celebration. There is dancing. There is toasting. Laughter. There is commiseration. There is sadness. Tears. There is hope.
And, most importantly, there is an embracing of reality
Tevye and his cohorts in Anatevka have found their way to this all important EMBRACE and it is sourced in their honoring of community and in the way they care for each other.
Though they live their lives steeped in the architecture of tradition, they unmistakably express themselves… they chirp, they warble, they whine, they shout. They cantillate and croon lullabies in a metaphorical and literal manner. They sing their joy. They sing their misery.
They do this because SOMEONE is listening.
In Anatevka Everyone is listening. Listening.
There is caring. There is concern. There is COMPASSION.
In Anatevka people want to know. They want to understand. They may not agree with each other but they want to hear each other’s stories. They are counseled by the HEART.
Is Anatevka a reminder to us of how we were created…to engage with each other, to learn from each other, to find our way by sharing our perceptions of how to SEE our journey?
We all have a great need to be heard, understood, and loved.
Ultimately, we are all Fiddlers on the Roof in search of community, connection, and meaning.
Marie Helena
Image from Fiddler on the Roof (the musical Broadway poster) Playbill Store
Sunday, July 6, 2025
The Ultimate Prescription
Emotions play an important role in helping us process what is happening in our lives.
But there is an even MORE POWERFUL function of emotions that we experience in our life.
Rhonda Byrne, author of The Power tells us that, "Every feeling you have saturates every cell and organ in your entire body."
If you are radiating love, "you receive the full force of health through your body at an astounding rate."
On the other hand, Byrne tells us that tension from anger, fear, stress, etc. causes your nerves, cells and blood vessels to contract, “changing the vital chemical production in your body...all of which reduces the force of your health.”
LOVE appears to be THE ULTIMATE PRESCRIPTION for strengthening and protecting the immune system and every cell in the body.
This means that WE CONTROL THE STATE OF OUR HEALTH by what we choose to believe and, therefore, feel (through the force of our emotions).
We DO NOT have to stay programmed to any beliefs we have been taught that violate what is in our hearts, our intuition, our instincts. All that we have to do is stay true to our authentic selves by recognizing, acknowledging and speaking our truth.
This includes accepting and acknowledging ALL that we feel, including the troubling emotions.
By not denying these emotions, by not chasing them back into the shadows we are LOVING WHAT IS and, because we let ourselves love what is within us, we naturally extend that love to all that is around us.
iT IS MY BELIEF THAT WE NEED TO COURAGEOUSLY CONSULT OUR HEARTS, MAKING THEM OUR FINAL AUTHORITY IN ALL OF OUR DECISIONS.
This path CAN be our legacy if we are not impeded by a compelling need to meet another's expectations at the cost of our own honor.
Nature is Divinely designed to serve us and reward our self honoring and consequent outpouring of love by taking BEAUTIFUL care of our health and vitality.
To achieve this,
LOVING and ACCEPTING OURSELVES
are the ultimate prescription.
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