We all indulge at times in the reverie of imagining what the wonderful future moments of our life will look like...how they will unfold...the lovely surprises, the great tasks we will accomplish...how everyone will be lining up to support and help us realize our dreams.
Ah, yes,we can be very creative as we fantasize about our upcoming adventures.
Sometimes the really big...REALLY BIG things happen to us NOT in the smoothest interactions...NOT in the most ideal settings..and NOT in the way we would prefer.
And sometimes The Most Unwanted Moments (according to Guy Finley) "can actually prove most pivotal" in the unfolding of our life.
The stinger we feel when things don't happen the way we have envisioned them is a message that the way we have been operating is NOT taking care of our needs and what we really want.
Perhaps, for example, we are doing things to please others or to garner validation from outside sources. And, in doing this, we are not listening to the messages of our own body and our own heart.
And perhaps it is these old ideas we are addicted to...because they helped us survive old experiences.
Finley says...with this realization (I call it a sting) we can stop trying to find "meaning, purpose and plans through a level of mind that can only reconfigure old ideas."
Now "we simply bring ourselves into the light of the LIVING MOMENT. Now we are present to what reality itself wants to give to us."
And that reality, I feel, is the Divine Universe giving us the opportunity to make a leap into a new and better way of living by forcing us to develop the resources we need to navigate the new experience.
When things go along the way we prefer, we usually just ride the high. We've been there before, we know what to expect, it's comfortable. But...we don't change or grow.
The changing and growing are what we do when we are confronted with bzzzzzzzzzzzz...and a stinger...something we didn't expect or invite but which has stopped us in our tracks and is challenging us to find a new way to do things... a better way because our old, familiar method is not cutting it any more.
And that is why The Most Unwanted Moments are the GREATEST GIFTS. They present us with the challenge of learning, reaching, growing beyond what we already know. Yes...this takes work...hard work...but we emerge with new insight, new wisdom, empowered... and much, much stronger.
Keep in mind that our GIFTS sometimes arrive in strange packages...sometimes they are hidden in the "pictures" of our life and/or in the people in the "pictures". But they are there, nevertheless...bzzzzzzing away.. And they require more of us than what we are used to doing...but they also hold the PROMISE of new strengths and new skills.
If we can become accustomed to finding the "gift" in every Unwanted Moment we will have learned to use one of the most powerful ways to help ourselves grow.
originally published August 20, 2011