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Monday, March 19, 2018

What's Behind the Blarney Stone?

According to Dictionary.com, the BLARNEY STONE is a stone in Blarney Castle in the southwest republic of Ireland said to endow whoever kisses it with the gift of the gab and skill in flattery.

What a great year it is for me to consider the question of what’s behind the blarney stone! I just took a trip to Ireland a few months ago to visit my daughter who is living in Galway for a sabbatical year. And I got to enjoy the delightful…no, make that DELICIOUS ways of the Irish as evidenced by my encounters with the Irish taxi drivers.

THEY certainly have the gift of gab. And they’re not just talking to hear the sound of their own voices. Their gift is their beautiful, heartfelt interest in the lives of others. They really want to know about people. How they are feeling…how they are enjoying the day…what’s really in their hearts. And, in return, they open their hearts at the first inkling of interest.

They seem to intuitively know how much information you would like to have and they are happy to provide it. No, not just happy. This heartfelt sharing is like breathing to them. This is probably why I felt so at home there. I, too, share a desire to do this heart connecting.

One taxi driver in Dublin told me about his family history, including the legacy of his father and his grandfather. Interestingly, he was not of Irish descent but he fit in so beautifully with Irish ways he could have been mistaken for Irish. (Probably he was called to live there because Ireland resonated so appealingly with him.)

Other taxi drivers discussed their children when I asked about them…giving me not only the statistical details but also commenting on their strengths and virtues and how they also drove their parents crazy.
As for the question of flattery, I’d have to take exception to the inclusion of that word in describing the Irish. Yes, they are given to dramatic descriptions (another reason I loved them so much). And, yes, they seem to love to use language to express themselves but the message of the Irish seems to be that they are sincerely, authentically connected with life…its joys and its hardships…and they have been deeply affected by both.

They do not opt to do a superficial dance with the encounters of life…they immerse themselves deeply. Sometimes they are delighted, sometimes confounded; sometimes they are sad, other times outraged but always they deeply connect with their lives. They ACKNOWLEDGE what is happening to them and around them. At times the pain, I believe, is overwhelming and the attempt is made to quell the suffering by frolic and gaiety, dance and drink.
But so often the Irish find the happy note, the joy, the inspiration in the moment and celebrate this discovery. There is a strength to the Irish that buoys them up and helps them rise and meet each day.

What they really have to teach us, I think, is to be unafraid to embrace the flow, to acknowledge it, to speak our truth about how it feels, to deal.

And so, in honor of St. Patrick’s Day, I salute this courage and fearlessness and invite them to inspire us to remember the beauty of dancing Irish eyes and engaging Irish hearts and let that awareness linger just a little longer and inspire us to deeply connect with each and every moment of our day.

                                                                                                       Marie Helena

When Irish eyes are smiling,
Sure, 'tis like the morn in Spring.
In the lilt of Irish laughter

You can hear the angels sing.

When Irish hearts are happy,

All the world seems bright and gay.And when Irish eyes are smiling,
Sure, they steal your heart away.

lyrics by Chauncey Olcott and George Graff, Jr.
music by Enerst

image from pinterest

Tuesday, March 13, 2018

The Most Unwanted Moments

We all indulge at times  in the reverie of imagining what the wonderful future moments of our life will look like...how they will unfold...the  lovely surprises, the great tasks we will accomplish...how everyone will be lining up to support and help us realize our dreams. 

Ah, yes,we can be very creative as we fantasize about our upcoming adventures.


Sometimes the really big...REALLY BIG things happen to us NOT in the smoothest interactions...NOT in the most ideal settings..and  NOT in the way we would prefer.

And sometimes The Most Unwanted Moments (according to Guy Finley) "can actually prove most pivotal" in the unfolding of our life.

The stinger we feel when things don't happen the way we have envisioned them is a message that the way we have been operating is NOT taking care of our needs and what we really want. 

Perhaps, for example, we are doing things  to please others or to garner validation from outside sources.  And, in doing this, we are not listening to the messages of our own body and our own heart.

And perhaps it is these old ideas we are addicted to...because they helped us survive old experiences.

Finley says...with this  realization (I call it a sting) we can stop trying to find "meaning, purpose and plans through a level of mind that can only reconfigure old ideas."

Now "we simply bring ourselves into the light of the LIVING MOMENT.  Now we are present to what reality itself wants to give to us."

And that reality, I feel, is the Divine Universe giving us the opportunity to make a leap  into  a new and better way of living by forcing us to develop the resources we need to navigate the new experience.

When things go along the way we prefer, we usually just ride the high.  We've been there before, we know what to expect, it's comfortable.  But...we don't change or grow.

The changing and growing are what we do when we  are confronted with bzzzzzzzzzzzz
...and a stinger...something we didn't expect or invite but which has stopped us in our tracks and is challenging us to find a new way to do things... a better way because our old, familiar method  is not cutting it any more.

And that is why The Most Unwanted Moments are the GREATEST GIFTS.  They present us with the challenge of learning, reaching, growing beyond what we already know.  Yes...this takes work...hard work...but we emerge with new insight, new wisdom, empowered... and much, much stronger.

Keep in mind that our GIFTS sometimes arrive in strange packages...sometimes they are hidden in the "pictures" of our life and/or in the people in the "pictures".  But they are there, nevertheless...bzzzzzzing away..  And they require more of us than what we are used to doing...but they also hold the PROMISE of new strengths and new skills.

If we  can become accustomed to finding the "gift" in every Unwanted Moment we will have learned to use one of the most powerful ways to help ourselves grow.

                                                                  Marie Helena

Friday, March 9, 2018

The Beauty of Jumping In


Have you ever gone to the beach, checked out the temperature of the water with your toe and then pulled back from wading in?
Too cold for you.  You are definitely not ready for this.  

 But then, while you are standing there contemplating the situation, an energetic soul suddenly rushes past you right on into the water, splashing all the way. 

 "Wow!" you think.  "How can they do that?  That's too big a shock to the system.  And not for me.  Oh, no.  I need to get acclimated to things first."

While the boisterous adventure of the fearless bather does create an unexpected but exciting disturbance in the (quiet and peaceful) field of force around you...there is a certain beauty to the courage and bravery of the very act of "jumping in"'. 

It symbolizes an all-encompassing embrace of "What Is"with the commitment and determination to navigate whatever obstacles present themselves on the journey.

Which brings me to a very interesting and inspiring quote about dealing with life's problems from Mark Victor Hansen :

"Don't wait until everything is just right  [...] There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions.  So what.  Get started now.  With each step you take you will grow stronger and stronger."

Are you, like most of us, someone who likes to wait for the "perfect moment"?  

And do you know why this is so?

Is it because you are lacking some faith in your ability to deal with the unknown and wish to line up (or at least wait for the lining up of) as many  circumstances as possible that would be favorable to your desired outcome?

Is it because it feels too frightening to take on the responsibility of making a radical shift in your life?

Are you worried about what other people will say or think about you?


Even though you may have identified several concerns about the issue of taking action... 

I have found that when you feel stuck in the way you react to situations, it is utterly a-ma-zing to see the impact of a single,  conscious intention to take the higher path.  
Even just voicing the words aloud,  "I aspire to _________________" starts us on the journey and notifies the Divine Universe that we are reaching for the Next, Grandest Version of Ourselves.   And, as always, the Universe  hears our intention and responds with opportunities for us to move in the direction we desire.

Even when we don't feel up to being this new version just yet we can start the process by "jumping in" to the fray with the recognition and declaration of the person we aspire to be.  

It's a bold, brisk step...it begins to break the hold of our old pattern of behavior.  

It's a conscious intention and it's a clear and simple way to offer ourselves the encouragement and support we need for the work involved in our transformation.

Additionally, it shows the people around us a picture of the person we want to be.  

It's the sending of a heart message which is impossible to resist.  And now the  persons involved in the transaction, having heard what you truly want to become, will become guides for your spirit.

 And THAT'S  The Beauty of Jumping In!

                                                Marie Helena

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Monday, March 5, 2018

Life Force Work

The energy for everything we choose to do comes to us from one central place, our LIFE FORCE, and this force is intricately connected to our soul station. The soul station is the Chief Operating Officer in charge of all of our decisions and actions and the LIFE FORCE is the fuel we need to carry out these missions.

In order for things on our personal planet to work well we need to have our soul station and especially its back-up system in good operating order. That means when things threaten to erode our life force, we need to pay attention and call in the needed repair system for this spiritual therapy.

Let's look at this on a purely practical level. If something occurs that causes a reaction in us (whether from a person or circumstance), it is a warning bell that we have some unhealed hurt that is making itself known. If we fail to address it by pushing it down, we might be able to squeeze it into a confined space for a finite amount of time, but the top of that metaphorical box will eventually come off from all of the frustrated energy inside and
we will have to deal by acknowledging and addressing our hurt or anger and/or by recognizing our body's message sent out to us through disturbing emotions or physical illness/disease.

How DO we engage the repair system when we are aware of an emotional or physical reaction?

We listen first to the body which does not lie.

We accept the body's message.

We speak our truth about how we are being affected and what we would like to do to release this issue. In this way, we go about clearing ourselves out. And, if we tell others what would help us instead of ordering them to do things our way, we create a very comfortable place for them to choose to support us. When it is their choice, people often feel at ease and are willing to make a commitment about giving this assistance.

Ignoring what is going on does no good. It merely delays the expression of the storm which, no doubt, will find a creative and equally or more powerfully frustrating way to manifest itself again.

And it is important to remember that this process needs to be a two way street. We speak our truth to keep our hearts free to fly (maintain our life force). We listen to others' truths so that they can join us.

Attention and follow-up to these signals WILL keep the life force strong and supple. What a great way to protect such a vital and important feature of the human operating system! We hold the sustenance of this awesome power in our hearts and hands.

Let's make this assignment a priority:
Life Force Work Order March 2018

                                                         Marie Helena

Wednesday, February 28, 2018

Through the Looking Glass

The behavior we display to others when we are IN OUR POWER is usually strong, positive, considerate and compassionate.  
This behavior represents our very best self and is a JOY to behold.

However, when we are especially stressed by life's challenges or very low on energy because of certain  burdens or unresolved issues, our behavior can look very different.

Everyone experiences these times of dissonance as we struggle with the difficulties of the moment and, during these times, we may display some not-so-attractive behavior.

What a beautiful GIFT it is, then, when someone close to us can recognize that we are not at this moment our naturally bright and loving selves and may be challenging or uncomfortable to be around BECAUSE we are in pain or have overextended our energy and not listened to and honored the messages of our own body.

How wonderful to have someone in our lives recognize that when we display this kind of behavior, we are in distress...to have someone have a strong sense that  this is not the person they know us to be.

How easy is it for YOU to see through someone's moments of tumult and turmoil and connect with the beautiful soul underneath these outer (and often frustrating) trappings? 

Can you hold an image of love and caring when the words you hear seem so different?  

If  you can, what a beautiful gift to extend to someone...to be  able to honor their soul and spirit even while it labors under the duress of these difficult moments!

Here is Spirit's guidance to help us through this challenge:

Keep the highest/best moment you have ever had with that person strongly in your heart.  Know that this is what he is capable of and that some distress has intervened between that experience and what you are currently seeing.  Tell that person you sense that he may be encountering some stress and and offer your support if the person would like this from you.

Whenever  someone's light is not shining through, it is being obscured by unresolved pain.  We can recognize and minister to that pain by our LOVING ACCEPTANCE of however that moment is showing itself to us.
Everything that exists is love expressing itself the best way it knows how.  Sometimes that BEST WAY is cloaked in pain and a generous heart is needed to LOVE WHAT IS!

                                                                          Marie Helena

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Through the Looking Glass

Saturday, February 24, 2018

The Art of Alchemy


In the ancient art of alchemy philosophers used the magical practice of turning base metals into gold or silver. This mysterious process transmutes a common material into a substance of great value.

Alchemy has a mystery to it...a sense of wonder and amazement.  We may ask ourselves how this transformation is possible.  It makes no sense to the intellect.  But the heart understands only too well.

The extraordinary ability to execute this amazing tour de force is one of our greatest abilities in earth school.  

When we access our hearts to find the wisdom regarding how to deal with the things that frustrate and irritate us...

we are gifted with insight and understanding...
we are gifted with a beautiful wisdom...
we are gifted with a soul view of what is playing out FOR US in our lives.

I use the words FOR US because everything we encounter exists to give us the opportunity to become stronger, wiser...more loving.

And when we generously extend our caring to others, we transform their lives as well.  

We communicate through our hearts.  We move through the emotional chaos, past the irritation and annoyance, past the feelings of hurt and anger.

Thich Nhat Hanh, Buddhist monk, teacher and author, tells us:

When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That's the message he is sending.

We ARE capable of this courageous vision that Thich Nhat Hanh describes. 

It is certainly not easy to release our very human reactions to what has upset and hurt us.  But it is a glorious endeavor to reach deep within our hearts and see and understand another's pain...especially when the person himself may not know what is motivating his behavior. 

Holding this HIGHER VIEW even when the person involved cannot see his pain... or talk about it...IS responding to the message the person is sending.  And it is the beginning of helping activate the healing process for him.

In this way we, too, practice the ancient ART OF ALCHEMY, and in this beautiful moment, our practice is infused with a true understanding and reverence for the glorious capability and expression of our human spirit.

                                                                        Marie Helena

image from people.tribe.net.    

Tuesday, February 20, 2018


A beautiful, soft, delicate feather falls gently near you or lands perhaps on your shoulder. You notice it from the corner of your eye.  A sweet curiosity.  Within seconds, you brush it away and move on to the events of your day. But...have you missed an important message?

Perhaps that simple, sweet feather (metaphorically speaking) has been sent to catch your attention and bring your awareness to a message meant to Light Your Way. 
But, because you are so attached to your list of things you feel you should attend to, you fail to recognize its significance.

This "feather" may be the lyrics of a song you are listening to, a remark you happen to overhear while you are shopping, an inspiration which suddenly springs into your heart. 
The "feather" could be any number of seemingly insignificant moments, but, if you ignore or override the message or inspiring impulse because you are preoccupied with lists which have been assembled for you by the expectations of society or through your enculturation, you will miss the MESSAGE of this moment.  But you will not be abandoned by the loving Divine Universe.  It will persist in helping you become aware of the guidance so readily available from your Higher Self.  Feathers will continue to drift into your life.

Esther Hicks, American inspirational speaker and author, tells us that our lives are teeming with these gentle and often subtle hints and nudges but that we often fail to recognize them. 
Indeed, their  very existence is a glorious mystery. 

What could source such a delicate, ethereal, gossamer labyrinth connecting each of us with the exact messages we need to hear and interlacing them with the events going on in our lives and the people we are encountering?


We live in a universe of love and it is enveloping each of us in every moment whether we are aware of this or not. 

We are free to act however we choose, noticing these moments of Grace...or not.  

But...when we do become aware of the awesome devotion of the Divine Universe to enhance our well being and we become attentive to the guidance streaming so creatively into our lives, our journey becomes a joyful "listening" to the messages circling so fervently around and within our hearts.    

                                                           Marie Helena


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