Whenever we decide to make a change in our lives we require a great deal of ENERGY and a free path for it to flow.
Once we clearly see that the way we are doing things is not working well for us, we are primed and ready for a transformation, but the WAY we try to make that change could be the source of a very big problem.
Very often the first thing we do is create a picture of how we can do things differently. This picture usually features a 360 degree turnaround from our usual behavior. We feel motivated and ambitious and so we embark on the journey...
only to find ourselves stuck in the quicksand of our default.
Here we have envisioned a huge shift in our actions...something we really want to do...and we get VERY frustrated when it doesn't fall immediately into place.
And that starts the verbal barrage we toss at ourselves for not being able to shift things and, even more pointedly, for having practiced such poor behavior and made such bad decisions in the first place. ):
And herein lies the biggest issue we are now facing. We have become our self-appointed prosecutor, judge and jury and are now reciting to ourselves a harangue filled with disappointment and recrimination. ): ): ):
And it's a BIG energy drain. HUGE. And it's seeping the life force out of us.
The fact is that change of any kind is very daunting...and uncomfortable.
And yet we are beating ourselves up for not being able to kick habits of long standing...possibly years of long standing...OVERNIGHT!
So WHY do we persist in putting ourselves through this agony?
Susan Menanno, a leader of Shamanic Journey Workshops, would say our mind wants to give our spirit indigestion by condemning our perceived inadequacy.
The mind wants to stay in control while our Spirit is growing into the Light.
So how do we stop this intellectual onslaught?
We stop it by accessing the heart...we stop it by loving ourselves.
We stop JUDGING ourselves...
because the very act of judgment is LEAKING OUR ENERGY.
The more we criticize ourselves, the more we lose this vital life source.
Instead of voicing criticism and condemnation, Mennano tells us to:
Call forth in our internal dialog what we want and need.
Voice a clear and sincere intention regarding what we hope to accomplish.
And then trust that we will be gifted with the insight, encouragement and opportunities to make this happen.
It is then, I believe, that the Divine Universe guides us to the perfect circumstances to support us in our desire to transform our behavior.
This way of thinking lifts our hearts beautifully and moves us seamlessly into the delightful flow of energy with which Spirit fills our lives.
Now we feel strangely free and liberated.
The absence of self judgment keeps us in the beautiful vibration of evolution and transformation. And the faith that we are loved and guided informs and directs our journey.
Now the energy pathway to our desired life change is clearly OPEN and waits only for us to step forward and accept this gift of grace and opportunity. :)
image from spirituallivingandhealing.com.