The supreme act of forgiveness is when you can forgive yourself for all the wounds you've created in your own life. Forgiveness is an act of self-love. When you forgive yourself, self-acceptance begins and self-love grows,
Don Miguel Ruiz
Don Miguel Ruiz
As we write the story of our life, our learning occurs in a myriad of ways. Sometimes the path is straight and clear. We take action that feels instinctively right...it works beautifully...we benefit and all is well.
Sometimes our learning takes a different path.
Sometimes we are influenced by unhealed pain, hurt, unmet needs, etc. and we choose a path that is not in our best interest. But, at that time, the choice we made felt like the only way we could go.
And so we went there. And it was not what we expected.
All was not well. And we ultimately JUDGED ourselves for the choice and stayed mired in sadness and regret.
Writing the story of our life is not usually a black and white endeavor. Sometimes we are drawn to what SEEMS like a solution but ultimately does not deliver on that (false) promise.
However, our learning can occur quite brilliantly when we can view our actions with some objectivity...
perhaps uncover what has moved us in that direction...
love ourselves through the pain of self-confrontation,,,
and emerge with a stronger, braver view of what we want to do with our lives.
Judging ourselves (or anyone or anything) is not productive.
It delays our process of learning.
What is needed is an open, accepting heart that understands we were trying to navigate some difficulty...a heart which knows that LOVE is always expressing itself the best way it knows how.
What we did is what we knew. When we know better, we do better.
And, as we reflect on our choices and their consequences, we begin to know better and we do better. We pass by judgment, embracing instead our humanity and moving forward with new wisdom and insight.
Perhaps the forgiveness which Don Miguel Ruiz is talking about can really be called the simple act of KNOWING that we are on a journey with some distracting side paths which ultimately can lead us to our true destination...a REMEMBERING of the glorious perfection of Who We Truly Are and an acceptance of how learning can occur in a dualistic world.
originally printed September 17, 2011