One of the strongest messages we grow up with and continue to hear throughout our lives from all sources of authority is the importance of forgiveness.
Forgive yourself! Forgive everyone!
But what if there is nothing to forgive?
What if everything everyone does is merely a forward or backward move or perhaps even a filibuster in the dance of their life, all depending on the stage of their evolution?
What if everything they do has NOTHING to do with us and everything to do with their journey? A journey which is based on their experiences, their personal growth, their unresolved issues, their unhealed pain. Given all of these variables, it is truly impossible for us to judge or evaluate the choices they are making. But, for some strange reason, we seem to think we can interpret their actions and that is our ONLY point of reference...ourselves.
It's pretty easy to do this...we all do it most of the time...It's our
habitual response but it causes SO MUCH TROUBLE! We can end up feeling hurt or angry or sad and depressed and what they are doing is NOT ABOUT US! We are the subject of the scenario because we happen to be in the picture at this time; we are the scenery and setting for the playing out of someone's latest life challenge. What if we really GOT that and, therefore, NOTHING felt personal?
There would be nothing to forgive. For ourselves or others. We are merely the playing field where someone works out the latest step in his evolution with any accompanying banging and clatter and others do the same for us when we are engaged in one of our "adventures".
I know it's pretty radical to expect everyone to see this...especially when our emotions are embroiled and our egos feel challenged. But how wonderful it would be if we could navigate our lives from this trekking star: Nothing to forgive.
We are ALL doing what we came here to do: use the resources of earth school to finally get the Big Picture of our lives.
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