The initial note...the dawning...the "ceremony" that leads us into the space of THE CHALLENGING EXPERIENCE.
So salient, so critical...the overture that fashions the response to what is about to unfold.
What kind of "prelude" do we usually create in that compelling moment before we engage in the discussion of a burning issue?
Do we "get right down to business"...not even noticing whether our audience is ready (and calm enough) to receive the "message" on our mind?
Do we begin by listing the words or actions that are affecting or, possibly, distressing us?
Do we describe in great detail our view of how things SHOULD have unfolded?
It would be so easy to launch into one of these approaches when we are upset and disturbed by someone's actions. But, by failing to create a space which invites heart sharing, we may well up the ante on distress and significantly lessen our chance of working out our problem with mutual intention and cooperation.
The PRELUDE that we need here in this moment (before we engage in discussion of the issue) should flow from an open heart...a heart that trusts in finding solutions that minister to EVERYONE'S needs.
And this intention can be voiced as a prelude to the "discussion".
Here are some examples of what we might say...
I want to share my feelings with you and hear what your feelings are.
I want to tell you what I would like to do and have you tell me what you would like to happen.
I want to honor my feelings and also honor yours.
I trust that we will find a way to navigate this moment that will take care of both of us.
I want to give and receive love, support, joy and wisdom. And I thank you for taking the time and making the effort to do this with me."
The first moments of an encounter can meet everyone's emotional need to feel "heard" and "cared for".
By holding...and voicing...a clear and loving intention to peacefully approach our issue, we set into motion the vibrational PRELUDE that leads to peace, honoring and harmony.
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